Category Archives: Behaviour

Wanted Man or Woman GSOH Must Be Nice

This above all to thine own self be true: And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man. Shakespeare: Hamlet: act 1. Seldom or never does a marriage develop into an … Continue reading

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Many Happy Marriages

The only way not to be disappointed is to expect nothing. The expectations of marriage today are much too great. Throughout my life I have done my best to understand what makes us tick and how we respond to each … Continue reading

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The Right Kind Of Control

If we value peace of mind, and I think it is one of the best of values, it is vital that we avoid harming other people as far as that is possible. To do this we must develop a powerful … Continue reading

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What Type Of Controller Are YOU?

There are two kinds of controllers. The first kind is one who puts the desire to please others at all times before honesty and his own well-being. Such people initially overwhelm you with charm but gradually make you feel uneasy … Continue reading

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Health and Safety – don’t make me laugh!

Why do we need a Department of Health and Safety? Surely the majority of sensible people can manage to deal with most problems in those two areas. I can see the necessity for inspectors in places of work and hospitals. … Continue reading

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Trust Yourself

In a concentration camp where our freedom has been taken away from us our powers are reduced to the thoughts that we create in our heads. In such circumstances if we want to stay alive, doing being ordinary has to … Continue reading

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Learning Ordinary

Order and ordinary come from the same Latin word ordinarius. Both words are related but they have different meanings. To be orderly means to obey the laws of the land and the many rules and habits that we need to … Continue reading

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Victor Frankl Being Ordinary

According to Harvey Sacks “doing being ordinary” is a job we all have to learn to enable us to know how to fill in the oceans of time we have unless we choose to fill it up with useless minutii … Continue reading

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So Ordinary

Harvey Sacks’ lectures were not prepared. They were delivered ad hoc in ordinary everyday language, which is very encouraging to those of us who are used to reading academic treatises full of special words we don’t understand. Yet paradoxically, its … Continue reading

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Do-Gooders Do Bad?

Money is not the root of all evil. The love of money is the root of all evil. We don’t kiss and hug our coins and notes. Love they neighbour as thyself. This is also misunderstood. We cannot love our … Continue reading

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